5 regrets people have on their deathbeds

I'd like to link this to my previous post on decisions making. In my previously posts, I gave a conclusion and definition of REGRET.

REGRET is a memory which propels us to do better next time! (I dont think many people would commit the same mistake which leads to their regret) - James Loh

However, very often, human beings only get to face their regrets at their death beds or when they are strike with a terminal illness where they know they only live for a limited number of days.



As such, if human being can work backwards and start thinking about what they will regret over during his/her last days, would actually provide a strong reminder not to have them(regrets) on the last days where nothing can be done to change or do something about it. I read a post on Yahoo.com.sg article on 5 Regrets people have on their deathbeds and would like to share here.

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

If you notice, of the 5, none of them are related to work, career and even Money. Dont quote me for saying work and money, they are indeed important in life, but what i am trying to say here is Money should not be the priority, but family and love ones are, because we dont regret not earning enough money in our last days.

Money should not be the priority, but family and love ones are, because we dont regret not earning enough money in our last days.- James Loh

I also liked the fact that the blogger herself who wrote these mentioned:

‘Many don't realize until the end that happiness is a choice’, said Ware in her blog post.

Life and death are inevitable in life, so is SAD and HAPPY. However, Life and Death is something we cant choose, but in HAPPY and SAD we CAN!

Therefore, HAPPINESS is a choice and never a based on LUCK or SURROUNDINGS. Enjoy life to the fullest.

Source Quoted from:
1) http://www.inspirationandchai.com/Regrets-of-the-Dying.html
Ms. Bronnie Ware has worked with the dying for many years. She recently detailed the top 5 regrets that people have on their deathbed on her blog.

2) http://sg.yahoo.matchmovegames.com/news/article/5-regrets-people-have-on-their-deathbeds - Thanks yahoo for the great summary of the article.

Crossroads, House, decisions

The title of this post explicitly explains the following content that is going to appear a few moments later.

I believe everyone has their choice. To one, it could means freedom, whereas on the other hand, it means stress and decision making. Decision making is one of the worst thing that could happen to someone who hates to choose! I am sure you have met one of them in your life. For example:

"Hello dear(girlfriend), what would like to have for your dinner? you asked.

"Anything!" She replied

In actual fact, decision making normally have subsequent consequences, normally consequences in 2 distinct direction. Can either go RIGHT or WRONG. This is common sense yet many people dare not make the step to make a "180 degrees" change just to make life better.

In life, many people may do the same 'WRONG' thing over and over again. However, how many actually change the WRONG thing and decide that it is right. Of course, then again, if a wrong mistake or choice is made, sometimes there are deva

stating effect/consequence which ends us up in a state we commonly know - REGRET

No doubt i have regrets after regrets in my life. For example, why dont i study harder or become an entrepreneur at the start of my career? What didnt i buy the house when it is feasible and reacheable? Why didnt I learn to be more consistent and striving for the best with more discipline?

However, what i have learnt is the REGRET is a memory which propels us to do better next time! (I dont think many people would commit the same mistake which leads to their regret)

If you are at crossroad(s) today when reading this post, take the DARING STEP and make decision swift. Don't worry about failure or regret, because you will know that you wont regret over the same thing ever again!

By James Loh.

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Has been quite a week, poker poker poker with my bao bei Roselinn. lols.


Finally got 3 million, but now, lost back to merely 1m. Hopefully my luck can turn good soon! Gambatte!